Brene’ Brown in her book “Rising Strong” talks about telling our story, not denying it. Being brave to honestly tell your truth and recognizing, yes this is what happened and now I get to choose how my story ends, will be powerful for you. In this YouTube video Brene’ and Oprah talk about sharing your pain with those who have earned the right to hear your story and can carry the weight of it without judgement. Victims of abuse/bullying need to find that one person who will meet you with grace and love so you can share your burden. Carrying your pain alone is a dangerous emotional and physical place to be for victims. Conquer your fear and reach out for help to that one person who you know will have your back. Someday, when the storm passes, and it will, you will be grateful that you did.
Elder , Partner & Those With Disabilities Abuse
Many disabled people and those who are over age 60, are victims of abusive people. The many types of abuse that compromised or overly empathetic adults may face are physical, sexual, emotional, and financial. The abused adult may be denied assistance of the basic necessities of life by their child, grandchild or caregiver. A victim may not be receiving essential care and are being willfully denied assistance. The link that I have provided illustrate the signs of abuse and how to recognize neglect and financial exploitation. The site discusses reporting abuse, and what happens when a report is made. Protective measures can be put in place if an adult is incapable of protecting himself or herself. The Department on Aging number to report abuse is 1-866-800-1409. An additional assistance help line number is 1-800-252-8966. Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths can psychologically or physically bully children and adults to injury or death. Find your courage to stand up for yourself or others who may be abused. See this short video on the 10 Red Flags of Abuse. Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there – Will Rogers.
https://www2.illinois.gov/aging/engage/Pages/default.aspx
What Dangerous People Say & Do
In partner relationships, abusers give red flags. They confide in you immediately to rush intimacy. They “love bomb” you & move in quickly. Their conversation is “off.” Sociopaths/Psychopaths are child like emotionally and cannot change. Red flags are their talk on food, houses & status. They’re materialistic and you may be thrown off on how smoothly they speak. What they say to others on a first meeting deviates from the norm. You may think, “why would she tell them that,” since its not normal conversation. Abusers do this as a bid for sympathy to move onto the next stage of manipulating you. Once you’re hooked, abusers start making odd asides about you. Such as, “you’re the smartest one in your family.” This is a passive aggressive way of putting down you and your family. Abusers become superior over you; using their speech to talk about their education, the money they made, the house they want. Little jabs & then gaslighting you into isolation so they can control you. You’re eating what they want, living where they want, seeing only the people they want you to see. Watch this short video by Jordan Peterson -How Narcissistic Psychopaths Fool You.
Abuse is a choice. Bullying is a choice.
As Elinor Greenberg, Psychologist said in Quora, the more empathetic a person, the less likely to see dangerous people until abused or broken. Abusers need control over victims to feel powerful since they have a fragile sense of self. Narcissists/Sociopaths are highly envious of others and materialistic. Co-Dependents live in denial of the abusers selfish or malicious motives. Co-Dependents are naive thinking if they keep being generous and kind, everything will eventually be okay. It’s never enough for the abuser. Abusers use shame on empaths to devalue them. When you feel like you can’t stand up for yourself with your abuser, hear what Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.”https://verywellmind.com/identify-and-cope-with-emotional-abuse-4156673?