In every relationship, every person will show you who they are when you give them time. Whether in your family, dating, at work or in friendships, recognize these people before you turn over your power to them. See this awesome short video by jimmy_on_relationships and go no contact with the Narcissist. You cannot change anyone but yourself.
I Forgive Myself. For all the times I gave someone the power to make me feel worthless, empty, afraid, or anything less than who I am. I’m human. There have been times when I forgot who I was, what I’m capable of, and exactly what I’m made of. But I remember now. I remember. I made a promise to myself to never forget again.-Stephanie Bennett-Henry
I hope that either all of us or none of us are judged by the action of our weakest moments but rather by the strength we show when and if we are ever given a second chance.-Ted Lasso
Be brave and let yourself be loved and give love at every opportunity. You’re one decision away from a different life.
The Problem Isn’t You. The Problem is the Power You Unknowingly Give To Other People. When You Stop Seeking Validation, Approval or Permission From Others, You Take Back Control Of Your Life-Mel Robbins
True Belonging is the Courage to Stand Alone When You Need to and to Be A Part of Something of Value. Your Integrity is Who You Are. -Brene Brown
Don’t let a bully negotiate who you are. Be a part of something that is important and be honest about how you feel. Standing your ground with a bully takes courage. Be open about what you value. It takes real bravery to stand alone and be alone when it appears the crowd is following another path.
Everyone has inside them a piece of good news. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is. -Anne Frank
We want to continue to grow and improve especially in the face of tough times. As Winston Churchill said, “To improve is to change. To be perfect is to change often. Those who never change their minds, never change anything. To lead change, we must start with ourselves first.” Recognizing our emotions on a challenging day will gather strength in you and lead to positive change as the video by Psych2go.net explains.
Humility Is Not Thinking Less of Yourself But It’s Thinking Of Yourself Less-CS Lewis
The fact that you have taken the time to learn more about overcoming being bullied, you know you matter. Don’t diminish what you do and your value to this world. Difficult times will come but they will pass and a brighter day will shine through. Focus on what you can control in your life and take steps each day to make the lives of others bright. A purpose in life, even small efforts each day to make someone else feel valued, will build your confidence in yourself. You’ve taken the first step today. Watch this amazing video by Hannah Grace Spangler and recognize you are not alone in your self doubt but you can overcome.
Validation is approval from others. Self-esteem is approval from yourself. Never sacrifice your self-esteem to gain validation. Validation is easily regained once lost. Self-esteem is not. -Mark Manson
Author Mark Manson asks, “In what ways have you sacrificed your self-respect in favor of validation from others?” Mark Manson asks if you are sacrificing for this relationship to the point where you are allowing yourself to be disrespected? Self-esteem is very hard to get back once lost. In your current relationship, do you respect your partner and do they respect you? Do you share the same values? Is there trust and open communication where you listen to one another and feel safe communicating each others truth? Love isn’t a feeling it’s a decision. Romantic love feelings are unreliable. You might not feel loving on a particular day but once you decide to love your partner, you have made a love decision and your behavior is reliable and set. Physical attraction may fade over time and romantic love will ebb and flow. You and your partner have to make a love decision so that the relationship lasts the test of time in a healthy way where you both are elevated by being together.
I Think Ageing Is An Extraordinary Process Whereby You Become The Person You Always Should’ve Been-David Bowie
How do we go from feeling powerless in life to feeling powerful? How do we learn to believe in ourselves and gain confidence? How do we not let others define us and bring us down? How do we find the courage to be our true selves? Emily Jaenson’s TEDxTALK describes the steps she took to increase her confidence and be the anti-bully by celebrating others successes and growth as well as her own.
Be Curious, Not Judgemental-American Poet Walt Whitman
Be a person that wants to learn about other people. Ask questions, don’t be fault finding. Strive to be a person that isn’t critical of others. Bullies are judgy people. Bullies aren’t interested in learning others stories and motivators. See this awesome scene from the TV Show Ted Lasso on how to be the Anti-bully by being curious.