Brene’ Brown in her book “Rising Strong” talks about telling our story, not denying it. Being brave to honestly tell your truth and recognizing, yes this is what happened and now I get to choose how my story ends, will be powerful for you. In this YouTube video Brene’ and Oprah talk about sharing your pain with those who have earned the right to hear your story and can carry the weight of it without judgement. Victims of abuse/bullying need to find that one person who will meet you with grace and love so you can share your burden. Carrying your pain alone is a dangerous emotional and physical place to be for victims. Conquer your fear and reach out for help to that one person who you know will have your back. Someday, when the storm passes, and it will, you will be grateful that you did.
Bullies at Work
Both Narcissists and Sociopaths show up in all lines of work. Sociopaths are narcissistic but not all Narcissists are Sociopaths. Meetings & office parties like a Narcissist since they keep the conversation going, they’re loud. They talk about themselves & like to use mute during conference calls to control conversation. Narcs are unaware how their unintentional bullying is effecting others, so relationships end badly. Narcs feel like a victim at work when actions aren’t appreciated due to their poor emotional skills. A Sociopath wants to win at work, so they are cunning and long game strategic. A Sociopath may exclude a target from a meeting. Use manipulation to get out of work, lie and thwart others to get what they want at work. Sociopaths are aware of their desire to have power and win over others. See Dr. Ramani Medcircle.com video on the difference.
You cannot change a Sociopath/Psychopath
Sociopaths/Psychopaths have the mental condition of Antisocial Personality Disorder. Some Overt Sociopaths are easy to spot: Hate group members, Mafia & gang leader ties, dictators, cult leaders, pedophiles. Some are covert; they appear charming and successful. In the book, The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout, Ph.d., 1 in 25 Americans has no conscience and can do anything to gain power over people without feeling guilty, a Sociopath. Most domestic abusers are either Narcissistic or Sociopathic. Noemi Maritnez says, “A Man With No Conscience, No Goodness, Does Not Suffer. ” You should not argue with them, they are expert manipulators and will make you look bad to make themselves appear good. They lie. They will align people against you & isolate their victims to control them. See this You Tube Video on The Best Way of Dealing With A Sociopath.