If words control you that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass. -Warren Buffett Are you allowing Facebook bullies to abuse you? If you are feeling negative emotions when you view Facebook, recognize it and do something else that makes you feel good. Tuning into positive mindful thoughts and finding something you can be thankful for each day, is a healthier choice. Choose to do things in your life that help you. See this link on bullying help. https://www.mhanational.org/sites/default/files/BACK%20TO%20SCHOOL%202014%20-%20What%20To%20Do%20If%20You%20Are%20Being%20Bullied.pdf
Abuse is a choice. Bullying is a choice.
As Elinor Greenberg, Psychologist said in Quora, the more empathetic a person, the less likely to see dangerous people until abused or broken. Abusers need control over victims to feel powerful since they have a fragile sense of self. Narcissists/Sociopaths are highly envious of others and materialistic. Co-Dependents live in denial of the abusers selfish or malicious motives. Co-Dependents are naive thinking if they keep being generous and kind, everything will eventually be okay. It’s never enough for the abuser. Abusers use shame on empaths to devalue them. When you feel like you can’t stand up for yourself with your abuser, hear what Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.”https://verywellmind.com/identify-and-cope-with-emotional-abuse-4156673?
What is Co-dependency or being Lovesick?
Co-dependency is emotional illness. When paired with depression lasting more than 2 weeks and/or anxiety which alters the way you live & work by accomodation/medication, told is mental illness. Co-dependents or Highly Sensitive People attract abusers. People who are highly empathetic, try to rescue others and do not care enough for themselves. To survive, everyone needs some narcissism but Co-Dependents don’t have enough. A narcissist will demand that you give up everything to be their nothing. Co-dependents have difficulty walking away from this abuse because it may be all they have ever known since childhood. People will not always tell you how they feel about you, but they will always show you. If a Narcissist can’t control you, the punishment will be swift. Abusers can spot Co-dependents . Highly sensitive people are people pleasers. Co-dependents think that abusers can change and may even feel sorry for them. Co-dependents blame themselves for others bad behavior and Narcissists play the victim well. Abusers always say they are the victim of someone or something. Might sound odd, but realize you may have a problem if you can’t take the last piece of pizza. See this short video on recognizing Narcissistic abuse.
Gaslighting: Mentally Destructive Psychological Abuse
If you are a highly empathetic, passive person and have a hard time standing up for yourself, you will be more vulnerable to Gaslighting. Sociopaths/Malignant Narcissists use this strategy over time to control people. When you wish you had recorded the conversation to determine if what you heard, was actually what was said, equals Gaslighting. Abusers want you to question your own reality, to put the blame on you for their bad behavior. If they have no empathy for others, they instead project that on to you, that you don’t have empathy. The most common phrases I have heard from abusers, “I didn’t say that, why would I say that,” “I was just kidding,” “You’re crazy, too over-sensitive,” “You’re the martyr.” They lie so you don’t realize you’re being brainwashed and controlled. Abusers do this slowly, over time as seen by Cult Leaders and Dictators. Abusers also lie to get people against you. If you’re not a liar, difficult for you to understand why someone would make up stories about someone else. Abusers care about how they appear to others so look at their actions, not their words. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-warning-signs-gaslighting?eml