When you are consumed with trying to understand & please others who are abusing you, your life cannot change. I never thought I would be thankful that my abusers made a public display of their bullying, where I was humiliated and devastated at a vulnerable moment. It caused another to confront me on the reality of my situation, which I had been denying. I was told how to become safe and focus on changing my reactions to abuse. 1. PLAN: Found a job, found an apartment, then told people I could trust where I was located. 2. POSITIVE: I put pictures and items on display where I felt proud & had succeeded in my past. 3. PAT SELF ON THE BACK: Each morn I got out of bed, then went for a walk/run, showered & dressed, got in my car to go to work, got out of my car & went into work, repeat daily. Initially, each action was monumental but eventually became easier by praising myself after each small accomplishment. Being away from my abusers and having to focus on something else, led me to see how long I had been living a self destructive life. I am grateful now that the breakdown occurred so that I could finally see my truth and change my life. See this short video on embracing a breakdown to get well. When you come out the other side, you will have grown & surviving finally becomes a better alternative than your destruction.
Action you can take to survive abuse/bullies