Children of Malignant Narcissists or Co-dependents, may become Co-dependent or Narcissistic. Narcissistic Personality Disorder & Psychopathy are genetic but narcissism is learned. A Co-dependent parent is the helicopter parent. Rescuing their children, trying to control their environment & putting their child’s needs above their own. Some children then learn to disrespect themselves and others by feeling entitled to special treatment. Some also may lack confidence to be independent from their parent. A Sociopathic parent puts their needs above the child’s and controls them. The child learns their okay only if their parent is okay with them. Experts agree that children who are over indulged or neglected by a parent, are more likely to become narcissistic. A child of a Sociopath may have had to survive their environment. They knew they had to take care of themselves & were devalued. These children are told to numb their own feelings to take care of the parent’s needs. The co-dependent parent is praising & doing for the child too often. Admiring the superficial, such as their child’s appearance or status, teaches a poor value. Allowing a child to navigate their world’s challenges, along with clear boundaries, builds confidence, independence and respect. See Dr. Phil’s video on Fitness of a Parent.
10 Factors to Determine The Fitness of A Parent from Dr. Phil