“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.“ -James Baldwin. Gaslighting is emotional abuse where the insecure abuser is either telling you that something never happened/wasn’t said or they deflect by changing the subject. Both of these actions minimize your feelings and confuse you to keep the ego of the Narcissist in tact. Abusers have a fragile sense of self so they need to end the conversation when a victim is saying that an abuser made a mistake or there is something wrong with their behavior. It’s important for victims to recognize when Gaslighting occurs and realize that the abuser is not listening to you, they are protecting them self. It is our actions during difficult times that are a witness to our character. See this great video on identifying Gaslighting by Dr. Ramani.
Action you can take to survive abuse/bullies